So, this summer I’ve been invited to a wedding as a “plus one”. How exciting and adult, I first thought! To be honest, I haven’t been to a wedding since I was 7, and I was the flower girl there so my dress was already picked out, down to the matching shoes and white stockings. Luckily this time I get to choose my own outfits (yippee!) but of course it must come with a bit of restraint.
Clearly, when one is deciding what to wear to a wedding, there are plenty of considerations, rules, and traditions. One, don’t wear white. Nobody wears white except the bride and the cute as a button flower girl (aka me, a decade ago). Two, you don’t want to upstage the wedding party. This is a rule I hadn’t even considered (probably, more so due to my budget than anything else) before a friend warned me about it (apparently, much to my chagrin, I have a habit of dressing up, much farther up, than the others around me. I take that, on a usual day, as a compliment). Since I am not part of the wedding party or related to the bride or groom, and not even being on the guest list but merely a “plus one”, I’m as low on the totem pole of wedding hierarchy as one can get, and this leaves me with a mixed feeling of humility and freedom. Being so low on the totem pole, nobody really cares what you wear–but then again, people will care if you’re dressed a bit too promiscuously/more well-dressed than half the wedding party.
With all these complexities in mind, here are some of my top choices for summer wedding attire.
The Lilly: Best default dress store, by far. Why? The hemlines and cuts will never make you seem promiscuous or on the prowl, and the colors are perfect for a summer wedding. You will, undoubtedly, probably end up wearing the same dress as another “plus one” at the wedding, or encounter several snoopy grandmothers who know exactly how much your dress cost. Just remember, that’s who your company is if you wear Lilly. A double-edged fashion sword that’s a little too safe for my taste.

Lilly Pulitzer Sunny Shift Cotton Poplin: $198.00
The Standout: If you want to be a little cutting edge and have some sass, I recommend Pixie Market for any of your fantasy fashion needs. So hip, so cutting edge, the styles are endlessly architectural and impressive. While you may appreciate the detailed hemming and hand printed fabric, the wedding party may pass judgment on your “barbaric” or “untraditional” tastes. It’s your reputation to uphold, decide how to dress it. Three cheers for the girl with the guts to strut this as a wedding (will it be me?)

Pink One Shoulder Dress:: $98.00
Simple Sally: Probably the most straight forward and appropriate dress I’ve found, this simple sleeveless pink dream is a beauty. With very straightforward and structured detailing, this dress will look absolutely stunning and flattering. The simple design has one of those perfect silhouettes that draws all the attention to your body as a whole, not the dress itself. Modcloth has done it again!

Modcloth Daiquiri Dress: $177.99
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