Well this debate all started when my best friend (male) and I were discussing Sienna Miller and her acting as Edie Sedgwick. To which he replies, “Well she has a nice body, kinduv an old face for her age but I don’t like short hair on chicks… a lot of guys don’t.”
Got me thinking, is that true? Do guys not like SHORT hair on girls regardless of physique and face? I started asking some of my other boys and as a whole they primarily all responded in a similar fashion. That yes, in general – men do NOT like short hair on women.Â
Supposedly there are always exceptions to the rule (Natalie Portman, Halle Berry etc.)Â but they are few and far between AND while guys think those chicks are hot, they still contend that they would be “hotter” still if they had long locks.
Just thought this was interesting and worth posting about. The irony is when women talk amongst each other we generally think, “Oh sure Suze, cut your hair it’s so long and drab. It’s way cuter short.” Oops! Not that I think that women should conform completely to a mans idea of sexy but again, pretty interesting to consider.
Any males out there want to chime in? Ladies, do you guys agree that men prefer longer hairstyles?!Â
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Like so many others on this page, I’m considering cutting my hair. Right now, it’s fine, blonde, and to about mid back. My hair has been complemented many times by friends with frizzy or died hair. The problem is, with school starting in two days and a hair cut tomorrow, i’m finally ready for something different. I’m a teenager, and I’ve only had two boyfriends, but neither of them ever said anything about my hair. I might mention that about a year ago, my hair had an unfortunate breakage accident, and I’m engulfed of a halo of frizz every time it’s humid out. So i’m stuck with long and elegant or young and spunky, but i don’t know which will get an better over all approval. I’m not trying to get a boyfriend, but I’d like to be overall more approachable. Suggestions?
I just recently tried to bleach my hair. the top came out fine, but the bottom turned orange 0.o… the “stylist” f-ked my hair up plain and simple. I LOVE long hair, but I had to cut the bad hair out, and now its a layered short cut with long side bangs. it’s… cute… but I really want my long hair back, not becuase guys love it, because I love it. any advice people? of cource I can grow my hair out, but what should I do while I’m waiting for my slow-grow hair to reach the lenght I want? I was considering extentions, but I’m not full of cash.
NYC Girl, I dissagree, I’m beautiful and I think long hair just adds to the beauty.
I may not be 6′ tall with strong cheekbones (I dont think looking like a runway model is all that attractive), but I love being 5’2″, thin, with soft and feminine facial features. its cute and sexy, not buich at all.
I do think most guys like longer hair on women, but that shouldn’t be the be all and end all of deciding what hairstyle to choose.
I have had everything from buzzed hair (just under 1″) to long hair (about mid back). I find that with long hair I get treated vastly differently than with short hair. Hair length and style says a lot about you, personally I am treated like I was weak and gullible by men when my hair is longer and I tend to attract men who prefer a stronger more independent woman with my hair short.
Everyone is different of course, and age and even ethnicity can have a lot to do with perceptions, but it’s something to consider rather than what someone feels is sexy or not.
Kelly, any man who treated you as “weak and gullible” when you had long hair is a fool. I totally respect those women who make the choice to exude feminity. I’m not talking *sexuality* here, but those gals who are confident enough to be themselves in any setting are those most admired by me.
I have short hair and i manage to do a few few different looks with it, i get a lot of comments from both men and women saying how nice it looks short, i personally think that whatever suits you is what you should go for. If my hair grows any longer than a bob my face looks terribly fat so i stick to short hair. Haven’t had any complaints from men, with regards to what they look for long or short hair— what they like is not what they get, they just like to look at it
Great hair styles shown above! I like to change my hair every winter (because I feel I get bored with my looks in the winter..and the weather is always so ..blah…). I always go to The Ohio Academy because I trust them with my new style
I think it depends on the person who is wearing short hair, how they feel about it, and how they feel about themselves.
I was a slave to long hair and trying to maintain it–when my texture is fine, straight, and easily damaged. In the past year I had hair extensions to the middle of my back, then cut to a long a-line, a shorter a-line, and finally an asymmetrical pixie cut. I have a very strong, square jaw line and the absence of hair framing it has really given it the space to be accented.
Maybe I am just vouching for myself, but in the four months I have had my hair at the pixie length, I have NEVER been hit on, asked out, and complimented MORE! Yes, by MEN. Maybe I just feel a bit more myself, and more vivacious, but I have had men (and women) of all ages compliment it. Perhaps its the younger generation, but I think it may just be how good you feel about yourself when you wear it, how “at-home” you are with your hairstyle; yourself.
The amount of men I have had dislike it is miniscule in comparison to the “fans”
ALSO women who are subservient to the generic male’s ideal of beauty are less interesting anyways.
–On another note, women may be a bit presumptuous and may take a pass at you as well. I take it as a compliment, though that could be bothersome to the more conservative woman!
I think that young men areless appreciative of the fact that long hair takes several years to acquire. It seems that there will be endless chances to grow and cut. But, as a woman approaches her 40′s and 50′s, the in-between stages are less attractive, and more annoying and difficult. So, in most cases, the hair remains short for life.
Also, it’s not as much fun to anticipate being years older, so hair goals which have a woman looking ahead to a day when there are yet more wrinkles is anathema to her desires. Better to focus on the here and now, and making the best of it. Then, somewhere in one’s 40′s, some shine is lost, so there may be disappointment for those who make the attempt to grow long again. One comment can lead to insecurities which lead to another big chop. It’s hard.
What I’m saying, in short, is that change may be interesting and cute, but the beauty of long locks is timeless. I’m so appreciative of those women who understand this, and make the effort throughout their lives.
Andrea, you hit on an interesting point. Short hair may make you seem “more approachable”. As a guy (with a good self image) I nonetheless have felt intimidated by significant beauty. By cutting your hair shorter, you are now less “intimidatingly beautiful”, and thus are more likely to be approached.
(I know, that’s an incredible conclusion I make based on a minimal number of facts presented. Still…)
Interestingly, my drop-dead-gorgeous daughter (who has long hair) has been “straightening” it because she hates her natural wave! Her hair has the same look as Kate Bekinsale’s in the first picture, and for her that’s Bed Head!
*sigh*, I’m fast learning that what men like on a woman and what women like on themselves are often polar opposites. I guess the question becomes; whom are you trying to attract?
I much prefer long hair, me and my girlfriend have waist length long hair.
And not too hard to maintance it, as some people say it.
I agree and disagree with some of what has been said. Though to add, I also always take into consideration the different sub-cultures, and styles within hair. Punks for example, most of the females have shaved heads, which is not ugly to them. The men in that sub-culture really “dig” it. But, if is a matter of feminine beauty, and the classic female image, then to some long hair takes the cake. In the 1920′s women broke out, cut their hair short and wore short dresses that showed little feminine figure. I would say that as shown is history short hair has been seen as a femaleÂ’s way of going against the grain.
I have always been a dreamer, and I always wanted long princess hair. But I have very fine, straight, and flat hair which I have tried to grow past my shoulders for years but always gave in and cut. I found, like another comment earlier, that I always had short hair as a kid, so growing it long was defiant of my childhood, and a disciplinary action. But now, I have gotten my hair cut short at the back, longer in the front, and found it feels amazing having shorter hair, and is so much easier to wash and take care of. But I still am growing out my black hair, and I have blonde hair naturally, so the black has to go! I am cutting it short like Sienna Miller(ish) and I am so excited. My boyfriend and EVERYONE sayÂ’s I’m cute, and I do not think I will ever be seen as really “sexy”. I think if you are confident then your sex appeal/ personality shows no matter what your hair length. Yes, many men like long hair, and yes many others dig short; it is really (as said before) all about how you see yourself, and how you carry yourself. That is where true beauty lies.
Have you ever noticed that when most female celebrities become famous, they have long hair and then cut it short later?
I just got my hair cut into a razored pixie. I’ve been told many times that I have ‘the perfect face’ for getting a short hair cut. I’m only 14, but I’ve had many different styles. The longest my hair has been is to my armpits, and it looked scraggly and oily. I have super-fine light blonde hair, and my hair just doesn’t look good blonde, so I usually keep it pretty short. I feel that if YOU like your hairstyle and YOU feel confident about it, you’ll look amazing. All this hemming and hawing means that you just won’t feel good about yourself if you get a short ‘do, and that’s just not right. You shouldn’t be worrying about what other people think. I have had short hair, in varying styles and colors, for a few years now, and I get compliments on every single haircut I get. So if you think it’ll look good, try it! There are guys out there who dig short hair.
I would be warned, though, that if you get the wrong style and you don’t dress in a particularly feminine way, you might be accused of being ‘butch’ or a lesbian. That’s another confidence thing. Getting short hair in high school may get some nasty comments, but it’s very unique. A lot of high school girls seem to be attached to their long, flowing locks, even if they would look great with short hair.
I’m in my late 40′s, and I think I have finally come to accept the fact that a woman’s physical appearance is very, very, VERY important to men. Yes ladies, the truth is that the majority of men DO prefer long hair. I wish that men didn’t care so much about women’s beauty, and I wish that they didn’t have so many requirements about the way they want women to look, but they do, and there is nothing I can do to change this basic fact about men. BUT – this is what I want to say, especially to the young girls and women who are longing to be beautiful, and who believe that beauty will bring them love and happiness – the truth is that beauty will never bring you love. Oh sure, if you meet all the standards of beauty, you will receive lots of attention, and lots of men will want to have sex with you. If you’re very attractive, and you have desirable assets like a great figure and long hair, you will even have many doors open to you which would not be open otherwise. Long hair can increase your beauty (in the eyes of men), and everything you do to increase your beauty will increase your wordly opportunities. ON THE OTHER HAND – beauty, long hair, a good body, – will NOT bring you one iota of love. It might make a man interested in you, who then later on genuinely falls in love with you, but it doesn’t have the power to bring you lasting happiness. When I was young and I was looking so hot and sexy, with my long hair and my good figure, I got my share of attention alright, but I never had a happy relationship with a man that was permanent. Also, most of that attention which my hair attracted was UNWANTED. Remember, if you’re attractive, you can’t control WHO is attracted to you. It might be a man that you’re interested in who is also finding you attractive, but there will also be a lot of creeps and weirdos who are attracted by your “feminine” long hair and beauty. There might even be strangers on the street who try to touch your hair and grab it. I saw on 20/20 or Dateline (or some show like that. It was a long time ago, so I don’t remember) about this woman who was brutally raped. The rapist had been attracted by her long hair, and while he was raping her he had held her down by pulling on her hair. After her horrible ordeal was over she cut off all her hair to about a half an inch, because she didn’t want anyone to find her attractive. Her reaction was understandable. She obviously was suffering from Post Traumatic Stress. Also, nothing in this world is permanent. I lost my hair to chemotherapy when I was 40. Of course, it grew back, but it’s never been as long as it was. Truthfully, I wasn’t too concerned about the hair, because I was thinking more about my OTHER great beauty assets – my naturally large, round full breasts. Fortunately, I got to keep my breast, since the cancer wasn’t that advanced. But one thing I’ve learned is that no matter whether I have long hair or short hair, whether I’m pretty or ugly, whether i’ve got big breasts or no breasts, NONE of it has the power to either make me happy or make me unhappy. And NONE of it has anything to do with whether or not I’ll have love in my life. Even though it’s sometimes difficult to do, I just keep working on trying to be happy and trying to love myself, no matter what. Sorry for the long post, but I’m trying to put the matter into perspective, because the deeper issue isn’t about what men (or women, for that matter) prefer when it comes to physical appearance. The deeper issue is that this is a world of impermanence, and your hair WILL be gone one day. Your short hair might be cute (to other women), and men might despise your short hair, but it doesn’t matter because one day you’ll be dead, and it will no longer matter that you had short hair, and that men hated it. And your long hair might be beautiful, and men might love your long hair, but it doesn’t matter because one day you’ll be dead, and it will no longer matter that you had long hair, and that men loved it. In closing, I might add, “Vanity, vanity, all is vanity.”
Susan, I agree with much of what you say, but you are too fatalistic. Sorry about your bad relationships. A good rule of thumb is to listen to a prospective partner talking about his other friends and family. THAT is the measure of the man.
Men fall in love with a woman’s heart and mind, and everything physical is icing. Yes, in particular, I am blown away by flowing long hair, and I wish that more women enjoyed having it, but were my wife not kind and compassionate, I’d never have been interested. Maybe, just maybe, your cynicism may have driven some men away. You do seem like a genuinely caring woman. Ron
Susan is right. So many women only care about “what men find attractive” that they lose themselves in the process. Yes most men are attracted to the feminine ideal, long hair, large breasts, small waist, docile, a lady in the streets but a freak in private, and other cliches, but fulfilling those things will not bring you happiness. There are many beautiful women that are very unhappy and can never find a good relationship. And there are many normal “plain janes” that are very happy. Hair is just hair, do what feels right to you and do not get stuck in a contraint like “oh my husband wants me to have long hair, so i cannot change it”. Sounds like your husband is paying attention to things that are not overly important. The post made by Ron are a little annoying in that he keeps emphasizing that his wife has long hair and thats what makes a women feminine and beautiful and its all crap ladies. Most men, most REAL men will not turn down a beautiful woman, long hair or short hair, does not matter. All through time women have been changing their looks, flattering unflattering men will still find them desirable >.>
I had long hair when I met my husband and only experimented a bit with the length for the first five years of our marriage. Then five years ago I had my hair cut into a “long” crop/short shag. I actually felt hurt when he said I looked better with short hair so in defiance I grew it out again and have only detoured to a couple of bobs but they don’t suit my round face regardless of how they’re cut.
My dad has always preferred shorter hair on women. Never said so but I think I’ve sensed it and seen it in the women he’s dated and married. They say women pick husbands who are like their fathers…OT
Many men have general preferences and think they won’t like something but it’s a shame to be so set in your preferences. Many men surprise themselves by actually liking a shorter hairstyle if it suits their SO better than long hair, once they’ve got used to it.
The majority of men may prefer long hair but there are always going to be some that don’t and some who won’t admit that they either don’t like long hair or don’t care one way or another if they’re with their guy friends.
Some women will cut their hair to sort out the men who are stubborn about their shallow preferences, among other reasons because hopefully any woman who prefers her hair short, or at least in periods wear it short, does so for herself!
I walked out of a salon with a bob one evening. My then boyfriend, now husband, said ” You look fantastic! You should always keep your hair short”! A few seconds after saying this a girl with LONG hair walked past by us. His eyes went directly to her sashaying hair which was up to her hips. That was the moment I realized that, I need to define what I think looks good on me. No one else should hold that much power. Since then, I do what I want with MY hair, irregardless of anyone’s opinion. Ladies, don’t let anyone else define who you are.
Ercilia, every guy enjoys physical facets of women. MOST guys do not rate hair as #1, as I do. For me, a woman’s shape or chest size is pretty much irrelevant. Do *my* preferences make me more shallow than any other guy? Please don’t be irritated by the fact that lots of guys are not agog over “chic” hair trends, and prefer Victoria Secret model length instead. Differences in opinions make the world interesting.
Guys and gals, I’m considering cutting off my long natural curly locks, but I’m very nervous about it.
Some of my friends keep telling me I’m too old for my long hair. Someone even put a picture of a woman with short hair on my desk (hint for me to cut mine short).
I have this thing about my long hair – that it’s just a part of me that I’ve always had. I’m concerned that I’ll lose part of my identity. It’s not that I’m vain about it – I’ve just always had long hair.
To be honest – it does matter to a degree what men will think about my femininity, but I think I’m ready for a change.
Most of the time I keep my messy bedhead hair up in a clip anyway, so I’m wondering what’s the point of keeping it long anyway.
At any rate, does anyone have any advice about going the drastic mile? I know my hair will grow back, but, as I stated previously – it’s a major part of my identity.
Any comments or suggestions from anyone.
Oh, I’m considering a version of one of Ashley Judd’s short styles.
Linda M. You’re never too old for long hair. Long hair is as individual as the woman wearing it, her ability to grow it long, whether it suits her face, built, lifestyle, personality, etc. What you do with your hair is also only up to you. Since my previous post I’ve cut my long hair to a medium long length that’s just below shoulder length, dips slightly in the middle and has some face framing layers. It’ll need trimming about every 10 weeks. My hair grows very fast. I like the change and not very surprisingly, my husband likes my hair better now than when it was longer. It’s nice to know that he likes it now because no one knows what I might do next;-)
I don’t think anyone is too old for long hair. My mom is fourty-nine and her hair is halfway down her back and she looks really pretty and a lot younger. She gets hit on by collage guys cause they think she’s in her late twenties! AND she’s a hairdresser.
And my boyfriend actually likes my hair better when it’s long than short, and I feel the same way. Three years ago I chopped all my hair off and I’ve been trying to grow it out since. It was almost to my shoulder blades but I had to cut off about five or six inches because my friend is going to school to be a hairdresser and used me as a hair model and damaged my hair when he tried to bleach it with crappy walgreens bleach. Now my hair is just above my shoulders and I hate it. My hair is naturally thick and wavy so it just looks really blunt and heavy. And it makes me look twelve instead of nineteen.
But I honestly think guys do like long hair instead of short because for one, all my friends are guys so I always hear them dis and discuss girls and when they refer to the girls with short hair, they call them dykes. Plus, before I cut my hair short, I got hit on by guys all the time and got many numbers. But when I cut my hair, I didn’t get hit on very often and when I did it was by guys who were total assholes or guys who were really creepy and told me they were in love with me five minutes after meeting me.
And I think the whole ‘long hair is too high maintinence’ thing is total crap. When you have short hair, you can’t just wake up and put it in a ponytale when you don’t have a lot of time to get ready and have to deal with gross bedhead. I personally think that short hair is WAY more maintanence than long hair. With my long hair, i just towel dry my hair after i take a shower and let it dry and it looks perfectly fine. And if I have really bad bedhead and don’t have enough time before school to style it, I just put it in a ponytale and go. It takes me only ten minutes to get ready in the mornings when I have long hair, as opposed to short hair cause my pixie cut didn’t look right at all unless it was straightened. And that would take me a while to do because I had to be really careful and not burn my scalp, face, or fingers with the iron.
And now I’m debating whether I should get extentions or not cause I hate my hair at this length, even if it is shoulder length. I know, it’s a super long length, but I have a lot of suppresed rage towards my short hair. Lol.
Super long rant, I meant.
And also, long hair is super sexy on guys so long as they wash it properly and get a trim every few months. Healthy long hair = sexy. Long, ragged, greasy hair = yuck. My boyfriend’s hair used to be almost down past his ribcage but now he cut it all off :[ But he has a cute semi-jew fro thing going on and it’s cute. I just prefer long hair over short for either sex.
Well im new to the short-hairstyle look. My hair used to be medium short then i wore extensions for a year got tired of them and now i have my hair curly short. People say it looks really cute on me since i look like a poodle. I was afraid to get short hair cus i always heard guys found long hair sexy. Well guys in my school are complimenting my hair saying its cute and nice. As long as i dont look like a boy im fine. I think most males like long hair but it depends how comfortable you feel. Short hair doesnt take as long to manage in the morning
I don’t like short hair. I don’t like seeing the roots, don’t color your hair. You need your hair trimmed.
Your hair’s still tangled.
Blah, Blah, Blah
I change colors and lengths often since it can be colored and cut into shapes and is meant to be our own toy-it’s fun- my opinion.
Why do men have to make comments or mean mug you after cutting your hair. No fun at all.
After reading all these posts, I’ve concluded that hair is a very personal thing. I remember when I got my hair cut really short, I thought it never looked more fantastic and went out immediately to show it off. I expected to get looks galore from men, or more than usual, but BOY was I SHOCKED: I got NONE!!! Any guys who would’ve looked twice at me before now acted as though I didn’t exist! I felt so invisible! I’m a bit chubby (avg height) so I realised then that it had been my long hair men had been looking at before. I also had people I’d just met thinking I was in my 30s when I was only 24! The maintenance concern is also individual. Some say long hair on a woman takes longer to do in the mornings, others say short hair takes longer. For me, when I cut my hair pixie short it took way longer with wax, mousse, blowdryer etc to style in the mornings because my hair is thick and wavy and unfortunately always waved the wrong way when short. But now that I have grown my hair long I literally shake it out when I get out of bed and it’s done. It is SO much easier than before, because short hair done badly is not so much neglect as ‘Oh look at her, she doesn’t know how to do her hair!’ As someone above stated, if it’s a bad hair day, long hair can be put up in a ponytail or a clip, which can look more professional and businesslike. And B Me’s comment was interesting, about a woman’s beauty being more intimidating with longer hair. I work with people of other backgrounds who are more affected by certain physical characteristics on a woman than Westerners and I’ve found I just cannot have my hair down when I’m around them because it is so distracting for them. (And to B Me: You’re right; I was approached seriously for a relationship for the first time ONLY after I cut my hair short. Very interesting point you made).
I would love to have luxurious long hair…the problem is that my hair is baby fine and when it grows longer than my shoulders, it just feels stringy and flat.. What do you guys think about long stringy hair? Is that Hot? As long as it’s long?
Yes, Kat. I absolutely think so. I think there’s something sexy with a woman’s long hair, doesn’t really about any specific styles, just like it long. That’s my opinion though, not everyone might feel that way.
My wife has baby fine hair. Not slightly fine, but very, very fine. She finds it unmanageable when it gets past shoulder-length, but she doesn’t realize it still looks great (to me, and to others). For her, the ideal length seems to be just about an inch above shoulder-length. I do not consider this “short” hair, and it is still quite beautiful.
She *does* look better with it longer, but she cannot accept that I actually believe that, so the shoulder-length seems to be a good compromise. If it gets longer than that (to the point that it separates on the shoulders) then it doesn’t look as good until it gets a good 3 or 4 inches past the shoulders. I think this is because how thin hair interacts with the shoulders. Again, though, when it gets past the shoulders a bit, it starts looking fantastic again.
I put far less stock in the thickness of the hair as I do the length. Thinness is less of a handicap as it is a “look”.
I perfer long hair by far but for instance if you have short hair and can pull it off like the girl in the pic or someone like rihanna keep with it but compared to most girls i’d mainly say long hair =]
Im 17 and i’ve experimented with all sorts of hairstyle, i had long wavy / straight, short messy, extentions you name it. I find that men naturally do prefer long but i dont think it stops them from finding short hair attractive, i think its just the woman that wears it. Everyone has preferences but it doesnt mean you wont ever try something new, its your overall appearance that a guy will see first. It think its the same with girls, if a someone asked to picture my perfect guy he would have short hair, but i might end up marrying a dude with long hair, it really doesnt bother me.
Long hair can get boring but then again so can short, when your young half the fun is mixing things up and messing around with your looks until you find something you love. I change my hair every few days i can stand looking the same for too long.
I think short hair is very pretty on females with a pretty face and on those who wanna be edgy. I myself am very edgy but I’m African american with long hair that comes to the middle of my back. My boyfriend says it fits me but I’ve been leaning towards cutting it and he said it would fit me as long as i get “the Rihanna cut”. I’m 5’5 and light skin and Im not bragging but I Always get compliments on my looks And on the way I carry myself so if l cut my hair I don’t think the compliments would cease because I’m still me and Im still attractive. Long. Short. Doesn’t matter. If a man likes you he likes you. Who cares how long your hair is!
I personally think short hair is gorgeous on just about every woman. I know several guys who are drawn to girls with short hair , and they are really stand up guys. Needless to say , If my husband “tried” to like my short hair and “failed” , as some poster mentioned then I would be rather worried about the status of that relationship.
I guess I am just one of those women who has always lived for what makes ME happy , and to heck with anybody who doesn’t like it. If I am a woman, who wears pants/jeans and cuts my hair short and you don’t like it then don’t look at me. My husband loves me no matter what, and my family and friends do and that is all that matters.
The ones who are worth your time will love you no matter what. Your hair could be 20 ft long or you could be bald and it would be the same. If he doesn’t , that is not love.
I started cutting my hair super short in college and never looked back. Every guy I have dated since I cut my hair has been attracted to me with short hair and for the right reasons and not sex alone. These guys that say “long hair only” are either at home alone , or have more STD’s than they can count because all that crap is superficial.
Do what YOU want. You will be beautiful no matter what.
i think they do like long hair more. i went out with a guy for 3 months and i still had long hair. a week into the third month i told him i was going to get my haircut short as a joke and he told me he would break up with me if i did. so there’s proof that guys like long hair more than short hair.
I personally like short hair. I look very young for my age im 21 and when I have long hair i look like im 15. Yeah i’ll prob. enjoy that when I get older but as for right now i enjoy having short hair. I have had more guys saying how more attractive i look with short hair so i believe i’ll stick with it. Its cool and all that most guys like long hair. But I for one as a woman want a man who loves me for who i am. If I feel better about myself with short hair then long hair i want him to respect that, and if I had a boyfriend who said he would break up with me, then he really doesn’t love me for my personality or who I really am. I am a T-Shirt/sweatpants/jeans type of girl anyways who likes shooting and sports. So if guys don’t like me because i have short hair then i really don’t wanna be with them anyways.
Up until about a year ago, I always had longer hair. My friends loved it. Then I decided to go shorter, like a bob cut i guess. And they still loved it. My boyfriend is especially pleased. So I think it depends on the girl… and the guy for that matter
Every man is different. I am early 30′s, slightly autistic and highly prefer longer hair. I can make exceptions depending on how it looks and how I met the girl. If I met a girl that I am attracted to and she has short hair, good to go. But, if I see ears, I am usually not that interested. If I meet a girl with long hair and she cuts it and I don’t like it, well that is a different story. Men are stuck between two worlds: trying to please the emotional and physical needs of the women we love. This leads to the issue of if both aren’t met, women get freaked out and think they are less. So, if a guy isn’t physically attracted to a women, he can’t provide the emotional needs either.
I had a room mate in Hawaii who used to date a girl with long hair and then she went through a depression and shaved her head. He stuck with her, but he said he wasn’t attracted to her sexually while she was bald. But, I noticed they had wigs in his room and assumed they were for their intamacy.
Through experience, I had a girlfriend who had medium lenght hair that was much shorter than I am usually attracted to. After two months she decided to cut her hair. I was a little offset when I found out to pick her up later that night. Having autism and drastic changes kind of freak me out, I was so in awe that I was nearly silent the whole night. She seemed so extremely confident in her new cut that I didn’t want to let her know that I didn’t like it. Anyway, she felt frisky at my place, but it felt like she was a completely different person. I wasn’t aroused by this new person. She told me that shedding her locks made her feel liberated and sexy. I told her that I was feeling bad from the food at the restaurant and said I needed to go to the bathroom. I told her that it would probably be best if she went home since I wasn’t feeling well.
The next day I told her that I just didn’t like the new do. I was still into her, but I wasn’t sexually attracted to her anymore. She was devistated and called me every dirty name in the book. I felt bad about the incident and apologized, but she called me a masoginist only interested in the physical and not interested in the emotional connection.
Anyway, while in South America, I met my wife. When we first met and started dating, her hair was down to the waist, but it was well maintained. While I was still trying to settle my emotions and see if she was the one for me, she cut her hair to about her bra strap. It didn’t phase me at all. I thoght such a huge change would have been the same, and still she had longer hair, but it made me feel a little wierd, but I didn’t lose my physical attraction to her.
Before her, I dated a girl with a choppy bob. To me that was excessively short, but I found her attractive. She told me she was trying to grow it. By the time we called it quits, she grew it out to just below the shoulders. I liked it better longer, but I fell in love with her with shorter hair. So, hair length is only relative to the person.
In closing, I highly concur with most here. Hair length is completely relative to the woman and the man. If a woman wants short hair, cut it. However, if you are dating or married, I would highly suggest talking about with a significant other if you have one. Sometimes the surprise can create a lot of issues.
One thing that I have noticed is that most women here are going to have their hair how they want it regardless of what men want. Good for you. Another thing that I have noticed is that most women that posted are like most women that I know. They don’t cut or style their hair for men. They do it for women. The same goes for how they dress. I know, you all say you do these things in a manner to attract a mate. But, I don’t understand how things work. I am confused.
You tell each other that short hair is awesome and the shorter the better. But to me, you have to have a very feminine face and neck to pull off a super short cut. When I was single and younger than 21, I always used to get most attention from women with short hair. Needless to say, I didn’t date much prior to 23. I was only able to find one that I could connect with physically, emotionally, and mentally. Anyway, during the time that we dated, she grew her hair out. Nothing excessive, but to just below her shoulders but above her bra strap. She looked younger and seemed more attractive, to me. However, all of her girlfriends always told her that she should cut her hair to the choppy bob she used to have.
Once I asked, “for whom do you style yourself?”
She answered, “for me.”
I asked her, “How do you prefer your hair?”
She replied, “As I have it now, because you like it this way.”
I then replied, “Thanks for putting me first, but do what you prefer.”
She then told me, “I would prefer to keep it this way, because I think I look younger and it compliments my eyes and face.”
I agreed. I decided to ask, “what if I didn’t like your hair short anymore?”
She just shrugged. I think she got a new style simply to see if I would stick around. Anyway, she went to the salon and cut it back to the choppy bob after a week and went platinum blonde. It wasn’t the length that made me lose my attraction, but going blonde. I have never really been into blondes.
It wasn’t the length that threw me off, but the excessive change that she did with the color. So, here is my question:
Why must women always be changing their hair length and color? And, why is the girlfriend always the source of change and never yourself? I feel that there are plenty of attractive women with short hair (Sienna Miller not among them), but the constant changing from mid to short to extensions, to and then long to super short. In my circle of friends, most choose longer hair. But, they all say it depends on the woman.
I had long hair up until my freshman/sophomore year of high school. After I cut it short (little longer than chin length) I felt more confident and happier, and I had a good number of friends and family saying it looked so much better than before.
I’m 19 now, still have short hair and can’t imagine going back. Now granted, I look much younger than I really am thanks to facial structure and short height (been told anywhere from ages 12/13 to 15/16, which is not fun), but looking back on my pictures, long hair didn’t really make things any better. At least with my short hair I feel like a different person and don’t care what other people think of it, even if they tell me I look even younger now with its length. I don’t think anything’s really gonna change that, so I may as well do what I want. ‘Sides, to me long hair just looks generic and boring. Looking at celebrities and most girls/women today, their hair all looks exactly the same to me. Short hair seems a little more diverse and unique.
women! come on! let men like you for YOU, not for your long hair. sounds like a creepy fetish. wear your hair however it suits you.
My boyfiend loves my hair lenght. I have short hair blondeish brown hair and he loves it. So no not all guys perfer long hair because I always have guys flirting with me, and I hae SHORT hair. This makes me mas that people think that all guys like girls with long hair, you cant ask onw guy and think that thats what all guys like, ask a guy for yourself!! (:
I think that the whole theory that girls with short hair are ugly, to be rubbish.
I have a pixie cut, and I hate to tell you this, but I’m not ugly. I’m tall and somewhat slender, and because I have the right face shape for it, a pixie is the haircut for me. I’ve had lowlives tell me that I looked like a lesbian, but that didn’t offend me much because I’m pansexual, lul.
I think that short hair is incredibly sexy on women. Long hair can be too, but I think that short hair is edgier, cuter, and in a way, just generally better. I chopped off my hair because
a) I look horrible with long hair
b) Long hair is incredibly annoying for me to style
c) Now I get 456456 more compliments
I think it depends on who can pull it off, though. But in a nutshell, that whole “girls with short hair are all fugly” is a lie.
my sister had long thick hair that looked unstyled like horses tails. She had it cut to short & funky & the difference was amazing. Her eyes looked bigger & she looked younger & her cheeks appeared fuller. When my hair is long around my face, i look drab & long-faced, when it’s trimmed shorter & flicked up, i look more attractive. I’d rather look more attractive, if all this is for “what men like” !!
Joni was right about my thick horse hair, but that’s the type of hair i am born with & I’ve tried all types of hair products & all made no difference. So, short suits me & i don’t get dandruff any more. I use thinning scissors to smooth out the fizziness. Do men really prefer blondes??? Any men want to answer??
well this is easy to answer.
im 19, and i have had long hair(about down to my bellybutton) for most my life.i have just recently cut off most of it(pixie cut) ever since i entered college.
i think my hair now suits my personality, its edgy and colored uniquely that makes almost everyone i pass say “wow your hair looks great!” yes, both men and women.
im not saying i dont enjoy long hair but, what i think the real answer to wether men like long or short hair better on a woman is that simple fact of turing that question around and asking yourself that.
i thought about it for a couple mins, and what i mean is example”do i find men more attractive with long or short hair?” and to be very honest..i actually figured that it all depends on how attractive that person is(meaning facial features)to me. you cant really say that you like one or the other, i mean you can..its your own opinion but, you simply cannot outrule shorthair and say it will always be less attractive than a woman with long hair.
i take victoria beckham for instance, with long hair yes she was still very pretty but, i mean now with her short short hair she is just wow, as in insanly hot. so i also find untrue how one can see a woman with short hair and say”well, shes pretty but she would even be more attractive with long hair”. of course this can relate to some women that have had long hair and cut it very short, in which the hair cut is simply unflattering to them. i think, in the overall end men dont simply find a woman attractive because of her long locks over a short edgy haircut.i think that beauty lyes in a persons facial structure(at first sight of course so personality doesnt count for now)and not just simple on a hairdo.
i mean ladies c’mon you can answer this questions practically by yourself’s, its a matter of reversing the question and answering it in your own head.i dont think women find a man less masculine if he had longer hair, AAHEEEMM david beckham! and even when he cut his head to almost bald, he was still very attractive. it just matters on wether you are an attractive face or not in that persons eye; like thee old saying goes “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”.
For two years my wife wore an attractive short haircut. Never did I think that she looked “fugly”. In fact, I preferred her short hair when it was newly cut. But, I’ve been in seventh heaven since she grew it all back. I’m sorry, I’m just a sucker for sensuous long hair on women. It makes my heart race. There is one lady (50) who has grown her forever-short haircut to her shoulders, and she has transformed herself from a nice-looking woman into a super babe!
I’m at a loss here. I’m 5’7” and fairly skinny. I’ve had waist length hair since I can remember. I’m in 8th grade and going to highschool next year. I was wondering what guys actually think. When I go to highschool, should I get a haircut? And if so, how much is too much? Is waist length just too long?
I think that waist might be a bit too long, for my taste anyway. I prefer hair that goes beneath your shoulders. Some women can wear shorter hair, while some even longer. You should have your hair the way you want it, though I think most men might prefer a little length on it.