I look at my sons and sometimes wonder what kind of girl each will marry. Since they are all still very young, I have quite a bit of time before they reveal their individual “types,” but I wonder just the same. 
I know what kind of ladies I want for them. They’re intelligent, funny, attractive (gotta have me some cute grandbabies), well-balanced, with good values and similar life goals to my sons’.
What if you could have a hand in the dating game if you felt that your full-grown child was on the wrong track, or completely stalled for that matter? Would you take it? Perhaps, unbeknown to him or her?
I stumbled upon a website that does just that. Nestled in a seemingly innocent blog is a section devoted to “marrying off” your single, adult child. Because the site is geared toward women over 50, I may or may not have fibbed about my age (what’s a little white lie to satisfy curiosity?) in order to check out just how this mommy match-making goes down.
There are two sections. One area is for posting a profile of your “child” and the other is for searching for his or her perfect match.
Setting up your child’s personal profile is rather simple. There’s a basic form including first name, age, gender, location and a short description of who he or she is and what qualities an ideal match would possess. Oh…and a picture of your available offspring.
Whether or not the children know that they are being displayed is ambiguous. There is a box that the mother has to check that confirms that the kid is 21 or older and has given consent to be profiled.
Do you really believe that they ALL know their moms have been playing cupid? I have a hard time swallowing that spoonful of sugar myself.
Then there’s the profile section itself. As I’m writing this, there are pictures and descriptions of nearly 150 bachelors and bachelorettes for moms to peruse. If you like what you see, you can click a button and send a private message to the lucky lad or lass’ mom and take it from there.
My feelings about this site are mixed. As a mother, I hope that when the day comes, my sons value my opinion on the women that they want to settle down with, but I don’t know that it’s my right to be an integral part of the dating process.
As a child (and for the record, I’ve been happily married for nearly 11 years), I personally wouldn’t want my mom playing puppeteer in my relationships. I know she has good taste – my dad is the bomb – but still. Matters of the heart are personal, and feeling added pressure from my mom wouldn’t be appreciated.
So, I throw this question out to the blogosphere: Would you, if you had the opportunity, play the dating game on your child’s behalf? What do you think?
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